Man Finds Out He Has at Least 97 Kids, Spends Months Driving across Country to Meet Them

• Dylan Stone-Miller donated his sperm while he was in college to make money.
• Years later, he received a message from a woman thanking him for giving her a beautiful daughter.
• The message opened up to many more, and soon Stone-Miller realized that he could have more than 97 children worldwide.

Dylan Stone-Miller, a software engineer from Atlanta, received a message from Instagram that would change his life. He got a message from a woman telling him she had conceived a daughter using his sperm.

In 2011, when Stone-Miller was in college, he and his roommate had the idea of becoming donors. He admitted that the decision was most financially driven since he was a broke student who needed to pay bills and tuition. So, he soon started earning $100 for every donation he made at Xytex, which helps clients worldwide.

According to his calculations, he made about 400 donations between the ages of 20 and 25 and accumulated an income of about $40,000. However, an important part of the donation was that he signed an agreement that said the families would only contact him once the children were 18.

When Stone-Miller received that message in 2020, he was confused. The woman was able to track him down and wanted to thank the software engineer for giving her a beautiful daughter. In no time, Stone-Miller found himself going through the women’s Instagram profiles and admiring the beauty of his biological daughter. “I had to fight to hold back the tears,” he expressed.

But that message he received was only the first of many to come. More parents were able to find him using his donor number and formed a Facebook group.

The more messages he received, the more Stone-Miller started asking himself questions about when his sperm would be stopped being used. When he initially donated, he said he was told the limit would be 40 families, but he did not even imagine reaching that number. However, reports state that sperm donations are not nationally regulated.

Therefore, as Stone-Miller connected with more families, he realized that he could use his story to advocate for donors and families. He is advocating for the cap on the number of pregnancies one sperm donor can produce and raising awareness on how sperm banks treat their donors and recipients.

Since the first message he got in 2020, Stone-Miller believes he has about 97 children in six countries. But judging from the statistics that only 40% of recipients report their births, he estimates that his sperm might have been used by 150 families, which could add up to 250 biological children.

Stone-Miller is divorced but had helped raise his ex-wife’s son. But now, through his online community, he started meeting some of his biological children in 2021, and since then, he has met about 26.

The software engineer decided to take a break from his career and now travels the world to meet his biological children. He explained that he first builds trust with the parents online, and then they work toward meeting in person.

The interaction with the children has been both fulfilling and emotionally challenging for Stone-Miller. He said, “It’s very difficult for me to say goodbye to the kids, knowing it’s the last time I’m going to see them at that age. I cherish the memories I’m able to create with them. There are a lot of tears and conversations about when they’re going to see me again.”

The donor uses his social media to share his story and teach other people some sensible ways of reaching out to sperm donors. He also shares the emotional connections he shares with the children in person.

Stone-Miller was asked if he had plans to have children of his own. He admitted that he dreamt of raising kids at a point in his life, but now he does not believe it would be ethical to have more children. For now, he wants to see how fulfilled he will be from the connections he’s currently making with the children.

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