‘He became desensitized to violent acts’: Woman shares what her porn-addicted husband requested of her in the bedroom

In a recent episode of Radio 4 Woman’s Hour series, a woman spoke about how much damage pornography had on her relationship. One woman on the show said that her husband encouraged her to shave her pubic hair and try anal sex after he had watched it happen in a pornographic film, according to the Daily Mail.

The new show has been marketed as “an honest and frank conversation about porn and how it affects people.” Reporter Ena Miller speaks with different people about how explicit adult films have impacted people’s relationships.

In the most recent episode, one anonymous woman who simply went by “Joanna” said that she had become so upset by her husband’s porn addiction that she encouraged him to sleep with someone else instead of watching the explicit material. The woman she said first became aware that her addicted husband was watching porn alone after she typed a kiss into his phone while replying to a message.

The “X” button on his phone reportedly pulled up a porn site, and a subsequent search found that he had been watching pornography several times a week without his wife knowing about it.

When she confronted him about it, he tried to justify the behavior by saying that “everybody does it,” and that “it was just fantasy and those women aren’t real.” Joanna went on to say that “you couldn’t take the porn out of the sex life we had,” adding that it was “so inextricably linked because porn had been part of all of his adult life — longer and more than sex had.”

Joanna became so perturbed by the development that she suggested they have an open relationship, saying: “I said I would rather you have sex with an actual other woman in real life, opening up the relationship would be preferable to living with porn, which might sound incomprehensible but I was just so adamant that I couldn’t cope with this porn use.”

According to FHE Health, 70% of men visit a pornography website every month. And about 90% of children between 8 and 16 years of age have viewed porn at least once in their life. The report also mentioned that about 25% of all search engine requests are for porn sites.

FHE Health went on to confirm that 50% of all pastors regularly look at pornography, signifying that porn addiction is widespread throughout the U.S. despite one’s religious or spiritual practices.