Research has shown that by reading about the experiences of others, you can become more open to the idea of experiencing similar things yourself. I hope that by following my spiritual journey as a medium in the articles published by the Mail over the past couple of days, you have felt this connection.
If so, I want you to know that to make your own connections with the spirit world you do not need to have been born a medium or wish to become one.
My background was firmly grounded in the material world as a naval commander and aide to a top-ranking official in the US military before I embarked on this spiritual path.
If I have been able to go through this transformation, then so can you. I believe that the insights I share in the articles can assist you in uncovering your own intuitive abilities – a term I prefer to enclose in quotation marks because such forms of communication are, in reality, quite natural.
Why? Because you and I and those no longer in a body are all connected at the deepest level. We all have the ability to make connections with spirit beings because we are eternal spirits ourselves.
Glittering beings of light, we are forever entwined, and that light never goes out. I guarantee it.
I want you to know that to make your own connections with the spirit world you do not need to have been born a medium or wish to become one, says Suzanne Giesemann
Expect miracles
It is not mere hope that causes us to want to believe in an afterlife. The part of you that is eternal provides an inner knowing that you are more than the physical body.
Moments such as gazing at a majestic mountain or into the eyes of a newborn baby reignite the awareness that you are connected to something far greater than your limited human experience.
Two critical keys to making the connection with sentient beings in the non-physical dimensions are belief and intention. The first step, therefore, in communicating with loved ones who have passed is to examine your belief about your ability to do so.
Find a peaceful place where you won’t be interrupted, sit comfortably, and get centred with a few slow, deep breaths.
Move awareness to the heart area – the bridge between your human nature and your true nature. With the intention of connecting with the highest possible wisdom, dig beneath the surface of your beliefs about life, death, and the afterlife. Ask one question at a time, trusting that some aspect of higher consciousness with the perfect answer hears you.
If you find that some of your beliefs are limited, set the intention to be open to all new concepts and the possibility that even if you can’t see, hear, or touch someone that they can still exist. Be as the child and be willing to play with new ideas and experiences.
If something doesn’t sit right in your heart, set it aside for now, but do not let fear or scepticism keep you from opening all doors to a world of pure consciousness that is ripe for exploration.
Get excited at the thought of experiencing what I call NOEs – no-other-explanation moments. These will become ever more common as you expand your beliefs and set the intention to experience miracles.
Automatic writing
With practice, you can take dictation from those in spirit.
Sit quietly with a pad of paper and pen and set the intention to enjoy a written conversation with someone in the non-physical realms.
Shift your awareness to the part of you beyond your story – the part of you that never changes. Rest for a while in this state of simply being. When you feel you have shifted to a lightly altered state, pick up your hand and hold it gently poised over the paper.
With practice, you can take dictation from those in spirit
Invite a loved one in spirit to merge energy fields with you. Whether or not you sense them step into awareness, greet them lovingly and write down a question to initiate a conversation.
Listen without trying for a response. When you hear something that is an appropriate reply, write it down, even if you think it’s your imagination.
If you are patient and committed to the practice, in time the words from spirit will flow more fluently and produce messages and information that will convince you that the connection is real.
Psychometry
The information-laden energy that we all radiate becomes imprinted upon everything and everyone coming into contact with us. In scientific terms, this is called entanglement, and it is what makes the practice of psychometry possible.
Think of a time when you sensed the energy in a confined space, for example the sacred feeling in a church or a sterile atmosphere in a hospital. Such attunement is a natural ability, and you can use it to tune in to not only feelings but information from physical objects as well.
Pieces of jewellery often make excellent objects for psychometry practice because they are more imprinted with energy. Find a friend willing to do a fun experiment and swap watches or rings.
Sit quietly and take a few slow, deep breaths to relax. Close your eyes as you hold the chosen object and with the sole intention of discerning information about its owner that you couldn’t possibly know, simply observe what arises in awareness.
What thoughts pop into your mind that stand out from your normal thoughts? What images appear on the screen of your mind’s eye that have no reason to show up? What emotions or unexpected sensations are you aware of?
Pieces of jewellery often make excellent objects for psychometry practice because they are more imprinted with energy
Report any experiences to your partner immediately without analysing them and ask for feedback.
When done with a playful attitude, you increase the likelihood of discerning the energetic imprint on any chosen object. You can take this exercise a step further by holding objects in antique stores and even items in nature.
Everything carries the history of its past, so have fun discovering what trees and rocks have to tell you about what they have witnessed over the years.
With practice, psychometry can prove to be an excellent tool for sensitising you to the energy-information from non-physical beings.
Putting spirits to the test
Those in spirit never mind being tested. Here are several ways you can ask them to give you evidence to help you trust what you have experienced together:
- Ask them to tell you something going on with someone you know that you can verify later with that person, such as a current event with them or an issue they’re dealing with.
- Request that the spirit being tells you a fact you don’t know, which you can confirm after the visit. This can be about the spirit, about someone you know, or any topic in general. This will validate their ability to give you information that is not coming from your conscious or subconscious mind.
- Hold out your hand and ask them to metaphorically put something meaningful in it. As you make this request, an image of something resting in your hand will come to mind. If the meaning is not immediately obvious, ask the spirit why they gave you that object. The response may make sense and carry a helpful message for you. If not, you can look up the object online to see if you can connect the dots between you, the spirit communicator, and their message.
Hold out your hand and ask those in spirit to metaphorically put something meaningful in it
- Ask them what sign they will send you in the coming days to validate the visit. They will put something in your mind that is unusual but not impossible to encounter. Do not try to find the sign. Allow it to reveal itself to you in a wondrous way that makes it clear you have received your validation.
Giving credit where it’s due
The more you open to the presence of loved ones in spirit, guides, and angels, the more you notice moments of what I call ‘set-ups’ from Spirit.
Contemplate times when you were led to take an action that resulted in a wondrous result benefiting you and others. Review the chain of events that had to take place for the outcome you experienced. Can you see invisible hands pulling strings?
When you understand that we all share one mind, you realise that the thoughts occurring to you are not necessarily your own. Those in spirit often merge with your mind as a way of guiding you. Such help can be as ordinary as the idea of taking a different route home, resulting in a meaningful encounter with someone in need.
Notice these set-ups and send gratitude. If you wish to be guided even more clearly in service to the whole, raise your hands to the sky and say to Spirit: ‘Go ahead, pull my strings.’
I see you
How would your life change if you saw others soul-to-soul instead of separate from you? The heart is the bridge between you in your human role and you, the eternal soul. Use this connection to see beyond the stories you and those around you are living.
Set the intention to remain in soul awareness as often as you are able throughout each day. In this heightened state of presence, pause when you interact with others and move your awareness to the heart. Acknowledge that you are not only human but also an eternal soul connected to all beings across time and space.
Visualise a rainbow or a cord of white light from your heart to the other’s heart – from your soul to theirs – and divine love flowing back and forth.
Notice how this practice changes your interpersonal relationships with family, friends, colleagues, and even strangers. You may well find that difficulties dissolve; people are friendlier and smile more often at you. Gifts will flow as you offer the gift of your soul’s love to the world.
Of course, you can also do ‘The Connection Is Good’ practice while in meditation. See how much easier it is to merge and interact with higher beings when you consciously connect your soul heart with theirs.
For an amped-up version of this practice, invite one or more people to join you in consciously connecting soul to soul. Look into each other’s eyes, one person at a time. As you do so, cross your hands over your heart and say to each other: ‘I see you.’
See how much easier it is to merge and interact with higher beings when you consciously connect your soul heart with theirs
Do not be surprised if a few tears are shed doing this powerful exercise in soul awareness. Those are tears of Joy – liquid gratitude flowing outward from the soul for acknowledging the presence of love.
And finally…
I hold the vision that you will enjoy your own adventures in consciousness now that you know what is possible for all of us.
I hope this has given you the tools to make the connection with any being at any level when your motive comes from the heart. Dive in fully. If the ensuing experiences stretch your beliefs, test them in your heart. Keep an open mind and be willing to play.
When we allow only our physical senses to determine our reality, we experience confusion, conflict, and isolation. When we make the choice to stop identifying with our story and live from soul awareness, we no longer experience emptiness, but a fullness that cannot be contained.
Adapted from Making The Afterlife Connection by Suzanne Giesemann (Hay House UK, £14.99), to be published June 10. © Suzanne Giesemann 2025. To order a copy for £13.49 (offer valid to 21/06/25; UK P&P free on offers over £25) go to www.mailshop.co.uk/books or call 020 3176 2937.
