A new mum has been left weirded out by her eight-year-old niece, whom she claims seems determined to breastfeed from her. The mum, who has a six-month-old baby, said that her niece has even “bit [her] boob” on one occasion.
The woman claims that her niece has asked for her milk, as well as trying to kiss her baby while feeding. Posting to Mumsnet’s ‘Am I Being Unreasonable?’ Forum, the woman asked what other mums thought of this behaviour, with many suggesting that it was “f****** weird”.
Explaining the situation, the woman said: “I’ve had my baby six months ago and I breastfeed. A couple of times when my eight year old DN [dear niece] has been over she has said & done a couple of things which make me uneasy.
“I’m a ftm [first-time mum] and obv not used to breastfeeding, but feel very comfortable in my own home around family, so am quite open about it. DN keeps trying to kiss DS [dear son] on the cheek while he is latched on and I gently asked her not to while he is busy. She did this on a few visits.
“Another time she was pretending to be DS and jumped on my lap in a breastfeeding position and actually bit my boob! Before her sibling arrived DN has asked if she can have some milk, which I have said no to which she questioned and told me ‘mummy’s going to let me’.”
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The woman explained that her sister-in-law (her niece’s mum) has recently had her second child and has been in hospital. She said that her niece is now excited to see her mum for some “booby milk”.
The woman explained: “Yesterday DN said she couldn’t wait to see her so she can have more ‘booby milk’. Now I understand being curious and trying a bit, but honestly I think she’s meaning full on breastfeeding.
“It’s not my plan, but I can also understand if she has been continuously breastfeed for 8 years, but the fact she’s been weaned for around 5/6 years, the thought of her breastfeeding again makes me really uneasy. I’m not overly close to DSIL [dear sister-in-law] but I could imagine she would breastfeed her older DC if that’s what DC wanted.”
The woman then said that she is going to try and find out if her niece is regularly breastfeeding, but asked others for their thoughts on the situation. Many people did not hold back.
One commenter said: “If this is a real post then YANBU [you are not being unreasonable] that is f*****g weird. I’ve seen a poster on here (whose posting history suggests not a troll) who still breastfeeds her 8 year old occasionally [vomit emoji] personally I think it should be a social services matter.”
Another said: “She bit your boob?? What did you say to that? Very weird behaviour for a child of 8 but then if her DM [dear mother] is letting her bf [breastfeed] then she needs to know boundaries and that includes not getting overly familiar with other women’s breasts. Actually sounds a bit creepy tbh.”
One commenter suggested that “extended breastfeeding” to age eight is “creepy”. They said: “I would have serious misgivings about any woman that did this and so would 95% of sane minded people.” Another said: “YANBU it’s gross. Breastfeeding past 2 is gross”.
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