FRESNO, Calif. — The holidays can be the happiest time of the year, but for some, it can also be very lonely.
Loneliness crept into Gordie Ochinero-Bermudez’s life from a young age, beginning as early as 9 years old, according to the Project Coordinator at NAMI Fresno. She recalls feeling a deep sense of being different and set apart.
This profound sense of isolation became a constant companion throughout Ochinero-Bermudez’s life, making it challenging for her to engage socially, particularly during her formative years.
Ochinero-Bermudez reflects on how her loneliness stemmed from feelings of rejection and disconnection. She often felt invisible and unheard, leading to a pervasive sense of isolation.
Dr. Amy Parks, the Executive Director of NAMI Fresno, explains people are wired to have friends and be around others.
“We were born to connect and have relationships,” said Dr. Parks. “Relationships are really important for our overall and mental health.”
With families gathering during the holidays to decorate or enjoy a meal, for those who are isolated through distance or circumstance, it can leave them feeling emotionally empty.
“If you don’t have family, if you don’t have friends, if you have strained relationships, then it’s a reminder of what you don’t have,” said Dr. Parks.
To help people struggling during Christmas week, NAMI will open its doors Monday and Thursday.
“There are so many organizations that have opportunities to connect and socialize with others,” said Dr. Parks. “Doing that helps you feel less isolated.”
Ochinero-Bermudez has learned to overcome loneliness. While it’s still an ongoing challenge, she says she draws on her family and personal activities to find purpose and support.
“Whether it’s my faith in God, being a homeless advocate,” said Ochinero-Bermudez, “Or being a cyclist, it makes me a part of something bigger than myself.”
“Trying to find an individual to be open with and vulnerable with is good.”
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This story is part of the “Our America: Mental State – The Loneliness Epidemic” series. The collaboration between ABC News and the ABC Owned Television Stations aims to share reporting on how to build social connections, with focus on stories about kids, caregivers, the workplace, the election, the holidays, and anyone looking to learn how to take care of themselves and others.
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