As Sean “Diddy” Combs faces ongoing legal scrutiny over allegations of sexual assault and abuse, Real Time with Bill Maher host Bill Maher used his platform Friday night to call for a cultural and judicial “new rule” nearly eight years after the rise of the #MeToo movement.
“A lot has changed” since the fall of Harvey Weinstein and other powerful men in 2017, Maher said in his closing monologue. Framing Diddy’s case as a litmus test for how society handles allegations today, Maher didn’t hold back.
“We need to keep two thoughts in our head at the same time: One, Diddy is a bad dude – really bad. Like, the worst thing in rap since Hammer pants. A violent, sick f**k – I’m sorry, an alleged violent, sick f**k. And we should lock him up and throw away the baby oil,” Maher said. “And two, things have changed enough that moving forward, the rule should be, if you’re being abused, you’ve got to leave right away.”
Maher insisted that urging abuse victims to act sooner is not the same as blaming them: âItâs not victim-shaming to expect women to have the agency to leave toxic relationships. Quite the contrary, to not expect that is infantilizing.â
The comedian pointed to text messages presented at trial between Diddy and singer Cassie Venturaâhis former girlfriend and accuserâarguing they could complicate any legal case. A graphic shown on the show included one message reading, âIâm always ready to freak off.â
âIf Diddy walks free, it will be because his lawyers can point to an endless stream of texts from Cassie expressing whatâs often called âenthusiastic consentâ to their sex life,â Maher said. âIf youâre âMeToo-ingâ someone, itâs not helpful to your case if you texted him, âme too!’â
Looking back at the earliest #MeToo allegations, Maher argued that the landscape has shifted. âWhen women felt, for good reason, that âOG predatorsâ like Bill Cosby and Harvey Weinstein would never be held accountable, why not at least get something out of it?â he said, describing a system once saturated with enablers and silent accomplices. âIt was not illogical for an abused woman to say, âWell, if I canât get justice for my pain, can I at least get a receipt? A coupon?ââ
While Maher acknowledged the psychological complexity of abusive relationshipsââas counter-intuitive as it seems, why an abused woman would send complimentary textââhe insisted that support systems today are far more robust. âWeâre not in the âno one listens to women or takes them seriouslyâ era anymore. Operators are actually standing by to take your calls.â
âI understand why it can be difficult for women to leave an abusive relationship,â Maher added. âBut this should be societyâs new grand bargain. We take every allegation seriously, but donât tell me anymore about your contemporaneous account that you said to two friends 10 years ago. Tell the police right away. Donât wait a decade. Donât journal about it. Donât turn it into a one-woman show. And most importantly, donât keep f**king him. Your only contemporaneous notes about what he did should be a police report.â
Maher also highlighted the âshowbiz sparkleâ element that can complicate stories like Diddyâs. âIf weâre going to have an honest conversation about abuse, we also have to have an honest conversation about what people are willing to do for stardom. If you want a No. 1 record so bad youâll take a No. 1 in the face, some of that is on you,â he said. âAnd if youâre doing it for love, well, câmon, Oprah and Dr. Phil and every podcaster in the world by now have done a million shows about âabuse is not loveâ and âabusers donât change.ââ
Maher closed with a brutal comparison: âR&B singer Ike Turner was a psycho, just like Diddy. But in an era when there was no movement to help her, Tina Turner somehow got away and she did it with 36 cents in her pocket and a mobile card.â
You can watch the clip above and catch new episodes of Real Time with Bill Maher on Fridays at 10:00 pm ET.
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